One of the biggest mistakes guys make when they match with a girl on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, or any dating app is…
They try to escalate off of non-compliance.
Here’s what I mean:
We’ve all had a match that responds to your opener with, “do you say this to all women?”
Basically something that can be a bit negative.
Or just a standard sh–t test.
You just have to pass it and that’s it.
(My fav way to pass this is by using humor and customizing it to the girl. If her name’s Christina, I’ll say “nope, only to cute girls whose name is Christina”)
But a lot of guys try to be clever and rush things.
And escalate off of it.
Look, I know texting is meant to move the interaction forward.
If a girl doesn’t vibe with your joke however and says “yeah nah” and then you reply with, “hey texting is annoying how about we hang out?”
You’re skipping seduction steps.
If she’s negative or testy…
You DON’T have enough social capital to ask her out yet.
You gotta build it up first by providing “value” and show you’re a cool guy.
Why would she agree to a date with someone who hasn’t really shown what he’s about?
The girl gets the same feeling we guys get when some webcam bot matches with us and starts calling us “dear”, “honey” and wants us to pay for stuff.
It’s just CREEPY.
Your best best instead is to be yourself.
Cliché, I know.
The nuance is to be yourself in the most flattering way possible.
Cool photos…
An interesting bio…
And messages that hook girls right away.
In my course on dating apps – Online Domination – we cover ALL of that.
In fact…
The part of the course I believe helps most with texting and getting dates just a few days within matching is in Module 5 where you’ll see how to create an obsession-worthy profile.
You’ll do it by highlighting the SEVEN character traits in your photos, bio, and texts…
That make women enthusiastically agree to go out with you.
I got one girlfriend of our students to admit to it actually.
Here’s what she said:
From matches to dates made EASY (never escalate wrongfully again)
Rock and Roll,
Christian
