Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 47 of Ask Christian Anything.
A.k.a the first one of 2025 🥳
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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Hi there man, thanks a lot for your advice but I have a question. I’m scared to approach a woman I like, maybe because of my stupid mistakes in the past. I’m gambling addict who’s not gambling anymore plus I don’t have the best relationship with my mother.
I’ve been into sports almost all my life , currently I’m training in martial arts 5x per week. That’s why my looks are not a problem, but I have a mental block. Plus I’m working as a seaman that’s why I’m away from my home a lot
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I hate to kickoff 2025 with such simple advice but it’s literally a matter of:
JUST DO IT.
This woman you like probably doesn’t know about your past.
Even if she does, what you’ve done in the past is in the past, the relationship with your mother doesn’t matter, and also your gambling addiction doesn’t matter.
Alllll of it is in the past.
Only YOU can rewrite your future…
By the actions you take in the PRESENT.
Onto question #2:
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Hey, I read most of your emails. I have one for ya. So I have been with the same woman for a few years. We used to bang almost nightly. I always make sure she gets off first and multiple times before I do.
Lately it has been down to once every week and it sucks ass. Not because of me. I try but she always has some bullsh–t excuse. How can I get her back in the mood? Or do I just move on to someone that will bang when I would like to?
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Sounds like you don’t have kids with this woman.
And it sounds like you’re not super invested in the relationship despite being with her for a few years.
If you want to make it work, have a conversation about it.
Her withdrawing secks is a SYMPTOM.
You gotta find out what it is that she wants but isn’t getting…
And see if you can help her.
If not, then the future is obvious.
If you don’t care about any of this however and don’t even feel like having the conversation, maybe it’s best you just break up.
But I wouldn’t give up on a long-term relationship that easily.
Now time for the last one #3:
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Hello Christian,
My 14-year relationship came to an end a couple of weeks ago. Before I even think about stepping back into the dating world, I’m focusing on myself and exploring different programs to grow and learn.
What would you recommend?
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Hey man,
Here’s a tough pill to swallow:
Getting back into dating after 14 years won’t be easy because much has changed in the world.
And taking even more time “off” before you jump back into it won’t help you.
It’s one thing to wanna know yourself better and grow and learn…
It’s another to avoid what needs to be done if you want to find new women.
I’m not saying you need to get into something serious…
But humans have the need to be social and we also seek intimacy.
Now’s the perfect time to explore both yourself and what’s happened in the dating world in the last 14 years.
So don’t deprive yourself of it.
Alright, that’s it for AMA #47.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
