Back in the 18th and 19th century women in British high society had a very interesting tactic to get a gentleman to approach them:
They’d carry around a handkerchief and “accidentally” drop it…
Close to the guy they wanted.
The assumption was he would pick it up for them as a nice gesture and then it’d open up the floor for romance to brew.
Now if this was to happen to me I’d be oblivious.
And if we move things to the 21st century, girls’ signals are even LESS obvious.
It’s always better if a woman just walks up to you and initiates.
So here’s 3 ways you can invoke her to do it:
1️⃣ Peacocking
In the early 2000s guys would be wearing top hats, getting nail polish, and wearing outright ostentatious clothing to get attention.
And it’s not a bad strategy.
The thing is though this gets you attention for the WRONG reasons.
She sees you as more of an attraction.
Even if you get her number, in her memory you’re some clown type guy and the chances of getting a date are slim.
(Ask me how I know!)
In 2025 peacocking should be SUBTLE.
For example: black tee, lululemon pants, pink sneakers.
The color stands out.
But the whole outfit itself is athleisure and can get you attention…
For the RIGHT reasons.
So it’s about being intentional and putting some unexpected spin on your outfits.
Something to contrast.
Or you can be wearing the most casual outfit but have your t-shirt say “A-Hole.”
It’s funny.
But it doesn’t put you in the CLOWN category.
2️⃣ Eye Contact
Lots of naturals don’t know how to explain their game.
And see approaching as weird.
Yet at the same time I’ve seen many of them walk up to women.
When I’ve asked them about it they say something along the lines, “the girl looked at me man!”
So I observed…
And noticed that these guys would try to make eye contact with every woman they find attractive and when one reciprocates, THAT’s who’d they talk to.
Point is it becomes more of a warm approach.
It’s not a bad thing to do.
Eye contact is a very strong indicator of confidence, too.
You can’t just rely on it 100% of the time because not every woman will be in a position to make eye contact with you or let alone hold it (she might just be scanning the room looking for her friends).
3️⃣ Fame
This is the one that GUARANTEES women will approach you…
But it’s also the HARDEST to pull off.
Not to mention that celebrities have to deal with people with agenda, hidden intentions, or looking to get a story for the paparazzi.
If anything, being famous equals a more complicated dating life.
You gotta have more precautions in place.
So while it can be nice to have some fame, you don’t wanna be getting recognized every day you’re out and about.
If I were you this is how I’d meet women:
1) I’d dress well.
Can be subtle peacocking like I advised earlier about putting an unexpected pop of color in my outfits…
Or just genuinely trying to look my best every time I leave the house.
Even if it doesn’t get me approached a ton, when *I* approach it’ll make it easy for the girl to compliment me or ask about what I’m wearing.
2) I’d practise eye contact.
Like I said, it’s a strong indicator of confidence.
Beyond just walking up to women, eye contact can be very seductive on dates.
It helps turn on the girl.
3) I’d actually approach.
No matter how cool being approached sounds…
It happens rarely so you’ll only get a TINY amount of possibilities.
It’s just not enough to get you the dating life you want.
If YOU approach however…
You get an infinite amount of possibilities 24/7/365.
Getting approached is cool but it’s not a robust strategy by any means.
Also being a regular dude approaching her?
It’s one of the most GENUINE and ROMANTIC experiences a woman can have.
Or at least, it’d make her day.
If you’re curious to see me approach, check out my course SayHello:
From “hi” to “let’s go out” in 3 minutes
Rock and Roll,
Christian
