The simplest way to flip the dating dynamic is to change your perspective.
If you adopt a “buyer” mentality instead of a “seller” one…
You’ll stop being impressed by her beauty…
And you’ll actually start assessing and screening if she fits your standards.
If she’s genuinely a girl you’d like to spend time with.
There’s millions of attractive girls on the planet…
But not all of them have a bubbly personality you’ll enjoy.
And when you start being the buyer instead of trying to sell yourself, you’ll AUTOMATICALLY behave in a way that screens for the type of person she is.
And when you do this…
The nature of the interaction will be on an identity level so it might “trigger” her to prove herself to you, explain why she’s so great, etc.
And all of a sudden, she’s gaming you.
Whereas if you think how most interactions go:
It’s the guy selling himself to the girl explaining why he’s so great.
But when you become the buyer instead…
The dating dynamic flips.
You’re intrigued, but not sold on her.
Everything you say will have some doubt embedded in it, almost as if you’re judging her based on her answers.
Or at least that’s the vibe you’ll naturally give off.
Make sense?
I explain how to do it in detail in the video below:
How to flip the dating dynamic and make her qualify herself to you
Rock and Roll,
Christian
