What’s Up My Man,
My name is Coach Dylan James.
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If you’ve been around The Social Man for a while, there’s a good chance we’ve already spoken.
Maybe I called you after you bought a program.
Maybe you’ve done private coaching with me.
Maybe you’ve come to one of my live events.
But for those who don’t know me…
I’ve been the head coach for The Social Man for the last 8 years.
I’ve been in the trenches coaching guys 1-on-1, giving customized, personalized solutions to men like yourself get their love life handled once and for all for almost a decade now.
So far, I’ve privately coached 178 men from our community and counting..
And as Jonathan mentioned in his last email, I’m stepping in to lead the next chapter of The Social Man.
I’ll Be Running The Show Around Here From Now On…
But before we go any further…
I want to tell you something important.
I’m not here to turn you into some slick pickup artist.
My goal is not to give you lines, teach you routines, or show you tricks
Because after putting in 10,000+ hours on coaching calls over the last decade…
I’ve learned something that most dating/relationship “gurus” either don’t know or don’t want to tell you.
The Problem Isn’t That You Don’t Know What To Say…
The problem is that when the moment comes…
You hesitate.
You overthink.
You second-guess yourself.
You wonder…
“Is this the right thing to say?”
“What if she rejects me?”
“What if I embarrass myself?”
And by the time you figure it out…
The moment passes.
She walks away.
And you’re left thinking…
“Damn. I should have just gone for it.”
Sound familiar?
Here’s the truth.
Wanting to have the perfect line, or the golden routine that works on every woman is like wanting to find the fountain of youth…
It’s a fool’s errand.
The goal isn’t to impress every woman.
The Goal Is To Attract The Right Woman.
And when you start showing up honestly…
Two things happen very quickly.
The wrong women filter themselves out.
And the right women start leaning in and showing interest.
The thing is, when most guys hear “be honest” they think it means: tell her everything I’m thinking.
That’s not the kind of honesty I’m talking about…
There are many shades of truth.
I’m talking about honesty that’s cutting.
Using Truth As A Sword…
Speaking the truth can cut through bullshit, masks, and games faster than anything else.
That’s the work I’ve been doing with men for the last 10 years.
Helping men express their truth in a way that the right women find helplessly attractive
Example:
You’ve been talking to a cutie for the last 15 minutes…
She’s giving you all kinds of positive indicators…
You ask for her number, and she says:
“Sure, I always love making new friends!”
Most guys would mishandle this situation by letting her “friends” comment pass under the radar, while silently celebrating the win of getting her number.
BUT, if you’re responding from a place of expressing your truth unapologetically…
Here’s what you would say instead:
“That’s hilarious that you think I spent last 15 minutes talking to you cause I want a friend [said while chuckling audibly].
Let’s be honest, you’re way too cute for me to be just friends with. And frankly I’m too hard to resist… you’ll see. How bout we hold off on the labels for now and let things develop naturally?”
She Looks At You In Shock, As Butterflies Invade Her Stomach
She immediately gets you’re not like 99% of other guys who’ve asked for her number.
You’re different.
You’re being clear in what you want, and what you don’t.
You’re challenging her.
You’re taking the lead & setting the tone and direction things move in.
And just like that, you’ve now been placed in an entirely different category in her mind…
You’re now in the category of guys she actually wants to date.
Try that one out, see for yourself how well it works.
I got plenty more where that came from 😉
Keep an eye on your inbox.
Never Settle,
Coach Dylan James
P.S. I’ll be making a HUGE announcement in tomorrow’s email.
There’s big changes coming to The Social Man…
I’ve been hard at work on something brand-new that’s going to upgrade the entire customer experience.
I have a feeling you’re gonna love what’s coming next.
More details on that tomorrow.
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