I almost wanted to throw up by reading an EMAIL.
This all starts with my client being in a long-distance relationship with a woman in another country.
By the way this guy writes about her, I can tell he’s absolutely in-love with this woman.
He cherishes her, buys her whatever she wants, asks her about her day, basically the “perfect boyfriend”.
After 5 years of being together, she throws him a curveball and accuses him of cheating when he hasn’t (<— BIG RED FLAG).
She ends it with him.
He continues to pursue her.
After a year and a half they begin to communicate again, but this time things are a little different.
She refuses to speak to him for longer than 2 mins.
She maxes out his credit cards which he’s given to her as a safety net. (<— BIG RED FLAG).
She ends it with him.
He continues to pursue her.
After a year and a half, they begin to communicate again, but this time things are a little different…
She refuses to speak to him for longer than 2 mins.
She maxes out his credit cards which he’s given to her as a safety net. (<— BIG RED FLAG).
She tells him he’s a loser, that he’s boring, that he’s not worthy of her.
He’s knee-deep in a pile of manure for this woman, who obviously wants nothing to do with him.
Now – you’re probably thinking, what does this have to do with me? I would never let things go this far…
Let me explain…
The problem started not when she began to treat him like trash…
It started when he was being the “perfect boyfriend.”
Most men confuse doing things out of love and doing things out of SUPPLICATION.
Supplication is when you find yourself doing things for a woman because you want to make her FEEL something for you… it’s FAVORS in exchange for FEELINGS.
Well this is easily the best way to not only have a girl be un-attracted to you but…
…to lose all and any respect she had for you.
Now that’s not to say you can’t do anything nice BUT when you’re doing it in hopes of it being reciprocated for love, affection or attention… it’s going to fail.
HARD.
A woman could never respect a man that doesn’t respect his own worth.
Even when it’s someone as great as my client.
So what can you do to make sure this doesn’t happen to you?
Always check in with yourself to see if your behavior is supplication.
Are you doing something because you want her approval? Are you acting in a way so that she gives you her affection?
Respect and love yourself enough to know when to cut bait with a woman that has lost respect for you.
If she’s treating you in a way you wouldn’t treat yourself… it’s probably time to look for greener pastures.
It’s a little tough love. but you needed it from one of the only people that’s gonna give it to you…
Your Wing Girl Who Isn’t Afraid of A Little Tough Love,
Marni
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