When you’re talking to or texting a girl you like…
And are thinking:
“I shouldn’t mess up”
You’re already setting yourself up for failure.
Focusing on NOT messing up makes you play safe…
Vanilla…
And buys you a first class ticket to the Friend Zone.
You’re putting too much pressure on yourself in an inefficient way.
It’s much better to focus on playing to win, instead of playing to not lose.
Girls don’t like perfect men.
They like RELATABLE men.
Real.
Authentic.
Raw.
When you’re unfiltered you become polarizing.
Polarity means to be assertive, have strong opinions, and not be afraid to offend someone with your views.
It makes the woman more attracted to you…
Because you’re being unapologetically you.
So years ago, one of The Social Man coaches coined The Polarity Method.
It’s a simple “mind trick” if you will that instantly takes the pressure off your shoulders and lets you talk to women you like in a genuine way.
Without any pretense at all.
And although it’s called the polarity method and involves being polarizing…
You’re NOT going all out guns blazing.
I’d say it’s more so about tastefully staying true to yourself while showing her you’re the man she really wants.
And it works like gangbusters.
Look at what our student Alex said:
“Feeling less pressure, ironically that actually has me feeling more excited to approach people, more excited to engage in conversations. I got lucky every night I used the polarity method!”
Or Jim:
“Much less pressure when you’re approaching people. So much better and more effective than memorizing lines!”
Or Peter who couldn’t believe his new reality:
“I think it’s the best thing you could possibly do. It’s that naturals aren’t scared of doing. Never thought I’d be a natural, but here I am now!”
So, yeah.
The Polarity Method’s definitely got the sauce.
Check it out yourself:
Start playing to win and attract the women you like (instead of being meek and playing not to lose)
Rock and Roll,
Christian
