I have to be honest for a second.
One of the most frustrating sentences that I hear most of my private clients say to me is:
“I have no idea what to say to women. How do I make myself interesting”.
Typically this statement comes right after they’ve just spent 20 minutes talking my ear off.
Do you know why this sentence is sooooo frustrating to me?
Because most of the men that say this same sentence to me, happen to be super interesting.
They just don’t realize that their experiences, stories and opinions are actually interesting.
They think
that women want to be razzle dazzled (can’t believe I just used that phrase but it’s true) talking about private jets and travel and big business deals.
These things are not what makes a man interesting.
Trust me, I used to work in the finance world and interacted with tons of men who regularly did these things at least once a
month and I still found them dull and uninteresting.
If you want to really be interesting to women, understand that it’s not the topic you talk about. It’s the way that you talk about.
I’ll say that again so that you get it in your brain 😉
It’s not what you say, it’s HOW you say it!!!
For example, if someone were to ask me what I did for a living, I could respond two ways.
I could say, “Well I kind of help men understand women but there are other women who do that too
and they are also great at it. It’s not really that big a deal.”
I literally just bored myself writing that sentence.
Or I could actually be interested in what I was sharing and say “I love what I do. I help thousands of men all around the world understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want and I’m really freaking good at it. I get emails from men every day telling me how I have changed their lives with women and it makes me feel amazing”.
The 2nd phrase is much more alive and exciting because I’m saying it proudly and owning it. I myself am interested in what I am talking about, so therefore I express it with interest.
The key to interesting conversation, is to actually be interested in what you are talking about.
So here is my assignment to you that I want you to try out for New Years.
Most likely you are going to engage others at your office, at parties or even just out and about.
And even more likely, people are going to have made some new
years resolution that they will forget in about 2 weeks 😉
I want you to talk to people, especially women about their new years resolutions and be interested in hearing their response.
Ask them why they made that resolution and then Be INTERESTED in their
response.
Then I want you to share your own New Years resolution with them.
But here’s the real assignment.
I want you to be interested and excited about your own New Years
resolution.
Tell her:
– Why you’ve made this resolution
– What it means to you
– What you think about it
– If you think it will be easy to keep
Overall, I want you to share and not worry about if it’s
interesting to HER.
Worry about whether or not it’s interesting to YOU.
Like I say over and over again, you are never going to be a mind reader. So if you keep trying to figure out what would be interesting to a complete stranger, your
kind of screwing yourself.
Instead, figure out what’s interesting to YOU and then share it in detail with women.
A man who is excited and passionate about something, even if it’s simply that he’s painting his house, is sexy!!
Go out, have fun and be interested in the world around you and I guarantee you will always have something interesting to say.
Happy New Year!!!
The BEST Female Friend You’ll Ever Have,
