Hey man,
It’s time for another edition of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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I don’t know how to approach a lady, can you teach me?
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Yes.
Most important thing is to go with open body language, get her attention from AT LEAST 10-15 feet away, and be friendly.
Can’t expect to attract her with a poker face.
And say what feels most authentic in the moment.
Here’s 3 options:
“Hi, I saw you and absolutely had to come meet you”
“Excuse me, wanted to say you look lovely today, what’s your name?”
“Sorry but who are you?” (with a smirk)
For more tips, just check out my $5 crash course on approaching here.
Onto question #2:
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Hey man, I haven’t quite understood if in general you encourage sleeping with many women, or rather find and commit to 1 woman?
Also, how do you overcome the fear of being intimate with a woman?
You talk a lot about how to get the woman and “all of that”, but what if “all of that” is scary for me because I fear being very close with a woman?
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I don’t encourage finding and committing to just one woman from the start because if you’re inexperienced you open yourself up to missing many red flags.
Plus, you won’t be choosing out of abundance.
You wanna have options and pick the best one. That’s if you even want a relationship at all in the first place.
As to your intimacy issues…
You’ll have to be honest and vulnerable with the girl.
And it’s about progressive desensitization.
If you’re uncomfortable putting your hand inside her panties then I don’t picture you doing “all of that” yet.
So the name of the game for you is baby steps.
You’ll be surprised how many women appreciate a guy who isn’t in a rush.
Going slow has its charm.
And makes her fall in love with you.
Or at least APPRECIATE you more than if you were a hit it & quit it type of dude.
So don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Vulnerability is attractive and a breath of fresh air in 2024.
Now time for the last one #3:
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Hi Chris!
I am into young girls and they are into me but, even though they are attracted to me I can sense their fear and doubt about going out with me on dates. I understand them, I could be their father.
Anyway, the attraction is there, the looks, the desire, etc. But it is extremely hard to make them comfortable with me. What could I do to gain their trust?
Thanks, Leo.
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If they’re truly into you as you’re into them, there wouldn’t be much “fear” or “doubt.”
Just own your age and don’t fall for their worry and anxiety.
Say there’s nothing awkward when the connection is right and the most important thing is that the two of you enjoy being around each other.
Hypothetical text you can send to “handle the objection”:
“Yep I get it and despite that I feel we get along really which is most important”
“If it’s that much of an issue I get it, no hard feelings”
Send it as 2 separate messages.
It’ll work with some.
Others will still be apprehensive.
And that’s the nature of the game – you win some, you lose some.
But you can never make excuses for what you want.
Always go after it.
Alright, that’s it for today’s AMA.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
