Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 48 of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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I recently became single after a 14 year relationship, so now I’m trying to get back into the dating scene but I have found it really difficult to get back in the game, well I never really played it to begin with but now everything seems so different.
Anyway I’ve sort of made friends with a few girls and one or 2 in particular I really like, however even though she knows how I feel and sends me some pretty suggestive pic’s it’s like she just doesn’t want anything to do with me.
And it rubs salt on the wounds when we go for a drive and she ends up all over my mates. I guess I’m just being used yet she says herself she can’t stand the types of guys she ends up with.
Is there any way I can make her see that what she needs is right beside her?
Similar situation with another one too🤷♂️
Cheers, Gaz
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Hey man,
Huge props for getting back into it after 14 years.
Most guys are too scared and just live lives of quiet desperation.
As to these girls:
Don’t try to save them.
Rather be direct.
Tell her you wanna go out with her.
Just the two of you.
If she beats around the bush, stop hanging out with her.
Don’t waste your time.
Time, energy, and effort are priceless currencies.
Better to go for girls that like you already 😉
Onto question #2:
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Christian,
My number one issue is I’m separated from my wife after 30 years!
Never expected her to have such changes between the ages of 53 and 54 she has changed enormous amounts…
Leaving me disappointed, shocked, heartbroken on and on, but I’m looking forward to your material because it’s been a long time. Never thought I’d be back brushing up on my game, etc..
Look forward to your program.
Thank you!!
Notice I didn’t even ask a question cause I’m not even sure it’s been so long, but I’ll let you know when I figure it out…
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Haha I thought there would be a question in there.
Anyways, glad you found the motivation to snap out of your frustration!
If you wanna ask me anything I’m available any time.
Now time for the last one #3:
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I was on a date with this girl and she constantly checked her phone. As if she couldn’t wait for it to be over or something.
The whole thing felt like a stalemate.
Is there anything I could’ve done?
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Yes, call her out on it.
No point in wasting each other’s time. If it’s an objection or something wrong just speak your mind.
Stalemates are a lose-lose.
Say one of these few things:
“You seem distracted”
“You don’t seem like you’re having a good time.”
“Is everything okay?”
“What are you doing on your phone? You’re not listening to me”
I’ve used the last one on more than one girl and most of them are initially shocked.
But always tell me after they find it refreshing and attractive.
Women like confident men.
Even when it’s not a favorable position for the man.
Just don’t be too harsh when calling her out.
Be nice about it.
Alright, that’s it for AMA #48.
Until next time.
– Christian
