Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 46 of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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Cheers to your work and these emails.
Has helped me more than I can imagine, and I am forever in your debt.
This brings me to my question, and apologies if it has been asked before:
How do I break things off gently? I live in a small town, and have been getting a lot of interest. Girls get super attached super quick, and that’s a bit unappealing sometimes. I don’t want to make a name for myself as a d–khead but I’ve been having a hard time figuring out how to let them down easily when I’ve decided they aren’t what I’m looking for.
Cheers guy, keep up the awesome work!
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Thank you brother ❤️
The fact you’re asking me this is a 100% guarantee you’ll never come across as a d–khead.
As to the specifics:
Evaluate how serious it is with the girl.
If you’ve been going out on dates, sleeping together, acting borderline like a couple for a few weeks or even a month…
Just be honest with her.
Have the conversation and explain you just don’t want to lead her on.
Do the good thing.
If it’s a girl you decided isn’t for you early on and maybe you’ve slept together a few times but it’s definitely not coupleish…
You can “phase” her out.
Just become less available.
Tell her you’re busy, can’t see her, reply less, and so on.
Might sound a bit d–kish but if it wasn’t that serious with her to begin with I don’t think you need to have a conversation about it every time.
Onto question #2:
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At what age should I think of dating someone or in what conditions should I consider having a girlfriend by my side to support me in my journey?
Regards,
Devang Kadam
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I wouldn’t rely on the woman next to me to support me.
It’s nice if you get together young and grow together as people and also accomplishments…
But waiting for a certain age or certain conditions is pointless.
If you like someone, do what’s necessary to date them.
Some guys in high school were losing their virginity at 14.
Whereas I lost mine much later.
There were no “conditions” that helped me lose it to be honest, it was just me being afraid to take action before that.
Same with my first girlfriend.
Don’t overthink it, just go for who you want.
Now time for the last one #3:
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Being a nice guy. I find it hard to break that pattern. I’m getting a bit better at teasing, but I often break the tension too early.
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You’re on the right track.
Just keep practicing.
And never do anything just to be “nice” expecting something in return.
Do nice things for others because you genuinely want to do it.
Be a GOOD human.
With women, don’t let them step on your boundaries.
Stay true to yourself.
And if you want to see how to build romantic tension that ends up in her REALLY liking you, I recommend checking out this here.
Alright, that’s it for AMA #46.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
