Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 38 of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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I need help with something. I’ve got this girl I’m dating as of now. We’ve been like 3-4 months. But all of a sudden she’s been acting awkward. I dunno why and I think part of it is that she literally didn’t break up with her ex for the right reason.
Now I’ve got these insecurities that she may be cheating and shi, after she told me that it’s hard for her to stay loyal to “her words”. Now we just have issues front and back. I really dunno what to do.
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Really curious to know what’s the “right” reason she didn’t break up with her ex.
Anyways…
It’s not an easy answer but it’s an answer you need to hear:
You should take time off of each other.
Just take a break.
I can’t say if these insecurities you have are totally on you or if she’s the one that’s creating them through her behavior…
But it doesn’t sound like you two are in a healthy space right now.
So have a candid chat with her and say that you need a pause.
Sucks but what can you do 🤷
Onto question #2:
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Hey Christian,
Because I’m naturally outgoing and friendly, I haven’t had much difficulty following your advice on how to approach women and get their phone numbers – thank you very much.
The challenge I continue having is turning those numbers into dates. I’ve taken your how to text her course and even review it periodically to make sure I’m not missing anything. Yet, my completion percentage would make Giants QB Daniel Jones look good.
Please help me before my phone runs out of memory from too many useless phone numbers.
Ben
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Sounds like you’re a cool guy by default, Ben.
Could it be that you’re trying to do too much via text…
Instead of just asking the girl out?
As we improve ourselves with time, our “value” in the eye of the girl gets sky high.
Meaning, she’s ready to hang almost immediately.
But if you’re taking too long via text and kinda “gaming” her when there’s no need to…
This can TURN OFF the girl.
Gotta strike while the iron’s hot.
You’re getting numbers in person so the romantic intentions are already there.
There’s no need to do TOO much via text after that.
So try being more direct and asking the girl out sooner.
You might be surprised 😉
And I’m glad you don’t have problems approaching and getting numbers!
Now time for the last one #3:
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Hey Chris,
So there’s this girl (my classmate) I really like. I started chatting with her via IG, just asking her for some advice. Ever since, I texted her now and then, trying to find a mutual topic, sth we might have in common, or just joking about her stories etc… Each time she responded in a very positive tone, she was really nice to me, seemed even hooked to the conversation.
Thing is, I’m a very emotional guy. I had some failures with girls and it really struck me down. I try my best not to make the same mistakes with her. But I can’t help feeling she’s being nice to me for no reason. So I can’t tell whether she has some interest in me or she just takes it casually. Therefore I don’t wanna get too emotional about it, I don’t wanna be pushy or annoying.
So I’m asking whether there’s a way to figure out or maybe find out directly from her without her noticing, whether she enjoys the chat with me as much as I do with her. If she feels the similar vibe or not….?
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Hey man,
All of your problems and overthinking will be solved by doing this ONE thing:
Just. Ask. Her. Out.
Don’t project your insecurities on the dynamic you guys have.
She might be simply being nice…
Or she might be into you.
If she’s positive and pleasant all the time, then she likes you to a certain extent.
How much, I can’t say.
Only YOU can find out.
So put your big boy pants on and ask her out.
Alright, that’s it for AMA #38.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
