Fearless Conversations → Module 1.6: Pause & Buffer
It’s one of the simplest conversation techniques we teach… and it works almost immediately.
Here’s how it works.
When she’s talking or finishing her sentence, don’t rush to respond. Instead, pause.
Count in your head:
One one-thousand.
Two one-thousand.
Three one-thousand.
Let your facial expression shift showing you’re actually processing what she said & reflecting your genuine emotional response.
Then respond with a simple buffer statement that encourages her to keep going.
For example:
“Really… that’s interesting.”
“I can’t believe that…”
Another great pause and buffer is to simply repeat the last 3-6 words she said.
So for example, she says:
“It was just really hard because it came as a total shock”
—> You say: “It came as a total shock?”
No clever line required.
Now here’s where most guys get it wrong.
They’re constantly waiting for their turn to talk.
They jump in before she finishes talking.
Or worse, they interrupt in the middle of her sentence.
This is the fastest way to show her you’re not actually listening.
Pause & Buffer does the opposite.
Sometimes the most powerful move in a conversation…
Is simply slowing down.
Inside Fearless Conversations we go much deeper into techniques like this that help you talk to women confidently without needing a script.
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Never Settle,
Coach Dylan James
