My intern Alex was taking care of the bill one night at the restaurant he went to with his friends last summer…
And a few moments later, just outside…
He saw a girl he felt like he HAD to talk to.
(In his own words.)
So he walked up to her in the most effective way possible:
He assumed familiarity.
Alex simply tapped her on the shoulder…
Got her attention…
And said, “what’s up?”
Yes, that’s suuuuuper simple.
But when you take into account the fact he said it like he already knows her…
It’s like he created a bubble around them.
That’s what assuming familiarity does for you.
The girl gets comfortable way more easily…
And she might think you’ve probably met before which will make her even more intrigued.
From what he told me…
They had a small-talk type of a convo after…
He established some similarities between them…
And got her Instagram before bouncing.
Now one clever thing he did was to tell her he’s going to the gym the following morning and she should go work out with him.
Of course, he wasn’t serious about it.
Alex knew a girl he just met probably wouldn’t agree to something like that.
But he used it as a setup to DM her a photo from the gym in the morning.
This way he immediately linked it back to their convo…
And made it easy for her to reply and have a bit of a back-and-forth.
Then they simply chatted for a few days and he asked her out.
On the date they hit it off and immediately became a couple.
(They still are, by the way.)
Alex told me how a few weeks later she told him that she felt like they’d known each other for a while the moment he opened her when they first met.
Again:
That’s the power of assuming familiarity my man 😉
And it’s one of the concepts I cover in my course Say Hello.
Cause it’s not only about WHAT you say…
It’s also about how you say it.
If you simply walk up to a girl and say “what’s up” in a plain manner, you probably won’t get the same result Alex did.
So there’s a bit of nuance to it.
Yet it’s SUPER EASY to get a hold of once you internalize it.
Last but not least…
Assuming familiarity, alongside other strategies, is a great way to make the girl open up and become more receptive to you.
So if she’s having doubts…
She’ll quickly turn around.
Honestly it’s one of my favorite concepts when it comes to meeting women.
(As you can tell from this email I dedicated to it haha.)
Anyways, if you wanna dive deeper, here’s where to get access to Say Hello:
How to approach girls in an easy way that makes them comfortable and makes for effortless connection
Rock and Roll,
Christian
