Here’s what was so weird:
In my day to day, I’m usually helping men find and attract the women of their dreams.
But I got an email from someone unexpected.
A woman.
Doesn’t happen often but when it does… I KNOW it’s gonna be good!
Here’s what she asked me:
“Marni, I know you help men but I have a question you might be able to help with.
This guy I’ve been seeing is (and I’m interested in) is ALWAYS pushing for sex.
I don’t like it.
Sometimes he’ll barely speak to me and then wants to hook up.
I feel like I’m being used for my body.
Why is he doing this?”
OH BOY!
This is a big one to unravel.
The reason I’m unravelling it in todays email is because:
Especially if you’re just getting started on your journey with me 😉
Here’s what I’m talking about:
Women equate physical intimacy with EMOTIONAL intimacy.
For 99% of women, those two are one and the same.
If you want to escalate things physically with a woman, you need to also escalate things emotionally.
That means a few things.
1. You need to be authentic.
Always be honest about what you’re feeling and what’s going on in your head.
Women can sense you’re being fake from a mile away.
AVOID IT LIKE THE PLAGUE.
2. You need to be VULNERABLE.
This means being in tune with your emotions and allowing yourself to be open to her.
Talk about your feelings, your fears.
This is how you build an actual connection.
Connection goes hand in hand with intimacy.
Whether it be physical or otherwise.
If you’re constantly going for the “goods”… without allowing yourself to be connected with her emotionally…
She’ll end up feeling USED.
Or worse…
TURNED OFF.
Making escalation impossible.
Listen:
Building a connection and escalating is so much more nuanced than anything I can lay out in an email.
But luckily for us both…
I have an entire programs dedicated to just that.
It goes into exactly what you need to say and how to go about CREATING a deep connection with a woman.
Not just for escalation…
But for an actual loving relationship as well.
Check it out!
Your Wing Girl,
