Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 25 of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can, too.
ALSO DON’T FORGET:
Starting tomorrow, Monday, as well as on Tuesday and Wednesday…
I’ll be unveiling 3 of my courses at a never-before-seen price.
All thanks to this upcoming Valentine’s Day.
The price will be valid for only 24 hours or so.
(Basically until the next email comes out.)
Those three of my courses cover the biggest issues I see guys have in their dating lives.
So if you’re yet to solve them, this is your most AFFORDABLE opportunity yet.
Ok now that we got this out of the way…
This is today’s agenda:
- What to text a girl, what to say to a girl, how to touch a girl, and how to ask a girl out (yep, this guy managed to squeeze in 4 questions as one)
- What to do if women don’t “approve” of the fact you only have friends with benefits
- How to date your client’s daughter if you’re a lawyer (NSFW, imo)
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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I have a couple of questions. My most common issues with girls are, what do i text them and what do i say when i am in a conversation, the second one is what do i have to do in person what do i say, how do touch them and how do i ask them to do something together?
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Okay…
I can already tell you’re overthinking brother 😁
The role of texting is to build familiarity and get a date.
So you’d wanna send funny, engaging stuff that makes her invest in the convo…
And then transition into asking her out.
I’ve sent plenty of emails with texts you can send girls so not gonna print it out here.
In-person again you want some familiarity, also flirt some back-and-forth, and also to ask her open-ended questions about herself.
(The best dates are when she does 90% of the talking.)
As to touching – think two steps forward, one step back.
You start slow & safe.
Like a brush on the shoulder, a hug, then maybe hold hands, touch her thigh, etc.
If at any point you see she’s uncomfortable, just “go back” two stages so she gets comfortable and then you can try again.
And asking the girl to do something together is simple:
“We should hang soon. Wanna do X or Y day?”
Onto question #2:
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Is it alright if I continue being the guy that has friends with benefits and fvckbuddies though some women see that as something bad? I mean, I don’t really like having a serious relationship but the females around me are showing me relationship vibes tho I don’t feel like it.
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You’re fine.
Just don’t mislead girls who you see want something serious after a certain point.
People will always judge you for your life choices, you can’t please everyone.
Simply make sure to not harm anyone in the process.
And there will be broken hearts…
But if you’re upfront about your intentions and give them the option to leave if the arrangement doesn’t work for them, then more power to you, my friend.
Now I don’t know how old you are.
And how long you’ve been doing friends with benefits.
After a certain point it’s not bad to see someone in a more serious way.
So the only thing I could tell you if you wanna do some self-exploring is to think if maybe you have commitment issues.
NOT saying you do…
Just throwing it out there cause I care about ya.
Now time for the last one #3:
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New member here with a quandary: I work for a law firm and there is a client’s 31 year-old daughter that was sending me some positive signals when I saw her in person, and we’ve been hitting it off in our phone and email interactions (she is the point of contact for her sick father).
I’ve been keeping it all professional, because I am a professional and don’t want to make the firm look bad or make her uncomfortable, but she is an absolute diamond and I’m starting to really like her.
How do I test the waters without potentially offending her, and/or making the firm look bad? Do I wait for the case to be resolved? Please help!!
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My policy is never 💩 where you eat.
Especially in such a serious and responsible field.
If you’re 100% sure she’s sending you positive signals and not just being friendly and polite because you’re taking care of a delicate family matter for her…
Maaaaybe you can try after the case is over.
But telling you even this makes me uncomfortable.
Law is serious business.
I don’t wanna hurt your career or make your firm look bad.
You work there and you know best how much leeway you have and what’s the potential worst case scenario that can happen.
You’re the judge on this one.
(Involuntary law joke can I get a high five ✋)
Alright, that’s it for AMA #25.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
P. S. Don’t forget the Valentine’s Day EXTRAVAGANZA starts tomorrow 😈
