Hey man,
It’s time for edition numero 35 of Ask Christian Anything.
As a reminder…
If you’ve got a question, just reply to this email and ask away!
Make sure to give me some context so I can help you as much as I can.
As usual, we have some interesting stuff to cover.
So make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and take your time for today’s agenda:
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What to do when you used to hit it off with a girl but now she’s cold
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How to act when you’re getting rejected in college
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Why salsa classes AREN’T great for meeting women (but how they can be if you follow my advice)
Let’s get cracking with #1:
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There’s this lady I’ve genuinely fallen for. Before proposing to her, she had a guy but yet still we had a good connection. For some months now she has ended things with her boyfriend but she seems to be ignoring me at the moment.
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She’s probably processing things.
That’s the EXACT time for you to see that it’s not always you who’s at “fault.”
Sometimes the girl has 💩 going on.
Who knows, maybe 3 or 6 months from nw the tables will turn.
I’d say let her be and talk to more women.
If you still remember her after some time passes, give it a go and who knows, she might turn around completely.
Time is your greatest ally in such cases.
It’ll show you either the reality you want or the one you don’t want.
But it’ll never lie to you.
Onto question #2:
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So I’m still in college and would like to get a freshman girl to go out with me. She is out of my league and I’ve tried approaching her twice or thrice but her cold replies had me disappointed. So I had decided to not go before her.
However, she just wouldn’t get out of my head for some reason.
Now, I need one of two things, either get her or get closure with her. I request that you give me a trick/framework/script to go before her and have her fall for me. Thanks
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Right now you’re in a mindset where nothing will help you.
Peak scarcity.
You have zero leverage.
“The one who can walk away has the power.”
Talk to more girls and be in abundance. Then try again down the line. Going in with this approach won’t get you success.
Might as well call it a rejection already.
Focus on other chicks and whenever your paths cross again with this freshman be your cool self and let it naturally build up.
No point forcing it after 2-3 unsuccessful attempts.
Know when to cut your losses.
Now time for the last one #3:
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Need your advice i have joined these Salsa classes in the pursuit of meeting some girls.
There have been a few dance partners and the instructor herself, but I have not been able to break the ice and start moving towards a personal introduction to get into friendship or even better relationships.
What should I do as the next step?
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Well, introduce yourself to your dance partner for starters.
DON’T hit on the instructor.
And then just be social every time, make small talk, probe for potential date receptivity, and do what you internally know what you have to do.
By the way…
Your question is the reason why I DON’T like going to classes and such only to meet girls. You automatically have an agenda.
What’s the point of suffering through salsa if you don’t enjoy it?
Better to hit the bars and meet women there.
Instead of wasting your time.
I’m saying this if you don’t enjoy salsa at all. If you actually dig it, then it’s fine.
Alright, that’s it for AMA #35.
Until next time.
Rock and Roll,
Christian
